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The Log In Our Eye

Saturday, March 10th, 2012

by Rev. Joan Van Becelaere

Ohio-Meadville District Executive

When Is a Unitarian Universalist most like Rush Limbaugh?

Mr. Limbaugh has lately been notorious for his remarks about Georgetown law student, Sandra Fluke. He has a long history of vilifying those he does not agree with. but this recent incident seems remarkably hateful and vicious even for Mr. Limbaugh. I am confident that most Unitarian Univeralists find Mr. Limbaugh’s remarks about Ms. Fluke and his broad verbal attacks on women reprehensible.

As Unitarian Unitarians, we know that reactionary, disrespectful, unthinkingly derogatory language violates the inherent worth and dignity of all people.  We recognize it as a deep violation of our essential interconnectedness in the web of existence.

And yet, as our election year begins to heat up, I have heard members – good members – of our congregations engage in reactionary and rude language in regard to those with whom they politically disagree.   

The language, thank heaven, has not been as vicious as Mr. Limbaugh’s,  but it is reactionary and disrespectful nonetheless.

To hear some folk talk during coffee hour in our churches, you might think only members of the Democratic or Green parties are allowed to join our congregations. But I know full well that our liberal religion appeals to Republicans and Libertarians and Independents, too. They are there in our pews on Sunday mornings, but few make their presence known in the face of bad jokes and ugly comments about political or fiscal conservatives.nonetheless.

When is a UU most like Rush Limbaugh?  When we engage in unthinking and reactionary language in regard to those with whose political (and religious and social) views we disagree.

In the book of Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus preaches: “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, `Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log  in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

We can and should engage in dialogue with people who have different political and religious and social views. That is how we humans continue to learn and grow as thinking beings. We should welcome the diversity often hidden in our own congregations and engage it in our greater society. As religious liberals and people of covenant, we should celebrate our ability to be different together!

But celebrating our differences together requires us to give up reactionary, unthinking language.   Instead, we need to learn to articulate our own beliefs and ethical commitments while staying connected to others. We can make a case for our view of the common good while respectfully listening (and even learning) from those whose views differ. We should be clear and confident enough about our own personal sense of purpose and commitment that we are not threatened or anxious if someone offers a different argument or a different view of the common good.

We also know that what is true in political discussion is also true about religious discussion.  We are all in this together!

As we move into what will likely be a highly emotional political campaign, let’s remember that we have the ability to be different together. And we can reject any temptation to emulate the style of Mr. Limbaugh.

 

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Why Is Everyone Talking About Mission?

Friday, February 3rd, 2012

by Rev. Joan Van Becelaere, Ohio-Meadville Dist. Executive

Ohio-Meadville District staff have never worked with so many congregations at one time all focused on the same issue – mission.  Why are so many of our congregations involved in renewing, re-articulating, revising or rediscovering their mission and sense of purpose right now? What’s going on here?

It looks like there’s a kind of convergence of several different elements all at once.

1) Many of our congregations are involved in or have taken the Healthy Congregations curriculum where   teams are asked to work with their congregation’s mission statement. Teams have found that their current mission statement may not be adequate or doesn’t really express the congregation’s core purpose.

2) Visitors are asking more questions about a congregation’s purpose and mission when they check out a church. Congregational leaders find they need better answers to these queries.

3) Leaders and members sense that there has been a major shift in society that is creating new pressures on our congregations to redefine their core identities and revisit/revise their sense of purpose.  They need a new mission for a new day.

Why is mission so important now?  Alban consultant and author, Gil Rendle, recently noted: “People no longer join congregations because they want relationships or because they want to “belong.”…[P]eople now come to congregations because they want a purposeful relationship with others who are seeking a purpose and meaning in response to the questions that they feel in their lives. For many the function of relationships in congregations has now shifted from being only social to being also purposeful. “ (Journey to the Wilderness, Alban Institute, 2010)

Rendle notes that this shift is difficult for many congregations to grasp. Many congregations continue to think that providing warm and friendly relationships – a feeling of family – is their chief strength and the reason people join and attend. But now congregations find this is no longer an adequate mission. Instead, they are being asked to take on a different role and purpose as a place where people look to participate in something larger than themselves and come to shape meaning for their lives.

“For many leaders,”Rendle writes, “the new reality feels like a wilderness in which the territory is suddenly foreign and feels dangerous.” It feels like living in the wilderness.

Michael Piazza in his new book Liberating Hope says that the church can move beyond just offering a place for relationships. “In a world changing at the speed of the Internet, the church can offer transformation, and, in a world where people live with few margins, the church can offer a space of grace in which to find meaning and purpose. It is as if the church is poised and open to a new kind of spiritual experience that moves people away from frantic patterns of modern hyper-productivity and toward a renewed sense of awe, mystery, and incarnational life. We want to feel God, to relish the Sacred, to ponder the questions of meaning, faith, and transcendence.”

I believe that our congregations are feeling called to re-articulate their sense of mission and purpose in response to these larger social and spiritual shifts.  We Unitarian Universalists need to rediscover, re-energize, renew our core sense of purpose as a movement and as individual congregations if we want to be thriving, active, agents of transformative change and love in a 21st century world.  But how do we discover and discern that purpose? We can’t look to history for it. Purpose changes as the needs of society and people change.

To find our core purpose for today, one that will carry us into a healthy future, we need to ask ourselves some new and difficult questions. Questions like:
How is a religious community, a congregation different from:

  • a. Political Advocacy groups (ACLU)
  • b. Social network (Book Clubs, Facebook)
  • c. Group counseling (AA)
  • d. Social Service agencies (United Way)
  • e. Family and friends

In other words – does a religious community have a unique purpose or calling?  If so, what is our congregation’s unique calling?

We will have to ask ourselves questions like this and more as we discern our mission for today. Unfortunately, no one is going to give us ready-made answers. There are no ready-made answers. (And we wouldn’t want someone to hand us the answers even if they could.)

Instead, we need to talk to one another in our communities, engage in dialogue together, openly and honestly and deeply.
And people have begun that conversation.  I think that is why everyone is talking about mission. And will continue to talk about it for some time to come.

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Heretical Thoughts While Waiting for a Plane In Columbus OH

Sunday, August 14th, 2011

by Rev. Joan VanBecelaere, Ohio-Meadville District Executive

Heretical Thought #1
Why do congregations that spend most of their time worrying about survival rarely ever thrive? While congregations that intentionally work to live out their collective sense of calling and mission never (or hardly ever)  talk about survival?

Heretical Thought #2
What if our congregations were to just call an end to most committees (especially the ones that meet monthly whether they have any work to do or not), and, instead, created flexible, evolving teams that meet when there is actual work to do and invited different members at different times to help with different events according to the individual members’ gifts and interests and passions? Would there be more volunteers in our congregations if people knew that their time and effort would be going to something that really matters? Really makes a difference?

Heretical Thought #3
What if it really is all about mission? What if all of our worry and concern about buildings and organs and governance structures and bylaws and workshops and mission statements and such (while all very nice to have) make very little difference in the world or in our lives unless directly connected to a solid, soul-level sense of mission and purpose? What if people really want to be part of something meaningful that is larger than themselves? Is that what folk really look for in a congregation?

Heretical Thought #4
What if we restructured our Annual Program Fund and District Fair Share processes so that congregations are called to share a percentage of their annual budget rather than donate according to a membership headcount? There must be some reason why most other denominations (Methodist, Presbyterian, Episcopalian, etc.) ask their congregations to share percentages of their annual budgets rather than a set amount per head. It would be fairer to those congregations with small budgets and large numbers of members who are out of work or living on small or fixed incomes. And we all know congregations with wealthy pledging ‘friends’ who are never counted as official members.

Maybe we could stop playing the numbers game each year. (We all know the games – creating 2 or 3 different levels of ‘membership’ and only reporting one of those levels as the ‘official’ membership count for Fair Share purposes. Or holding only 1 membership Sunday each year the weekend AFTER the official membership numbers are turned into the UUA.)

What if we stopped focusing on the numbers game and focused instead on the support and sharing our congregations owe one another as part of our covenantal relationship?

Heretical Thought #5
What if all of our congregations became places of deep spiritual transformation (still keeping the potlucks and social events, of course); but focused on real, life-changing, society-shifting transformative efforts?

They just called my flight and so it’s time to line up and get on the plane. Perhaps that’s enough heresy for now. But what would happen if other Unitarian Universalists were to start thinking heretical thoughts while waiting for planes – or while flying – or while at home – or at church on Sunday morning? What then?????

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Striving for Competence

Saturday, July 30th, 2011

Is is OK to be just competent? Sure, it’s better than being called incompetent, but what if you’re not really good at something? This topic surfaced at a recent summer program as participants struggled with language and experience around multiculturalism.

Unlike my husband and children I will never excel in Math, but I’m competent enough to notice that twice yesterday the cash register failed to give me the promised sale price. That made me feel good!

I grew up in a suburb that at first glance looked to be of the homogeneous white bread variety. There were a lot of “others” missing from that “sun down” town that I have since had the opportunity to get to know. With prodding I have started unpacking my plain white culture and am noticing all sorts of flavors and hues. Not only is life more interesting when people that were former “others” have become friends, family members, congregants, coworkers or neighbors, but I have much less anxiety. Just like the multiplication tables or playing the piano, practice counts! Part of my personal spiritual growth is to challenge my assumptions – by reading, listening with the heart, seeking training, and putting myself in situations where I am challenged. Little by little I’m learning. Differential equations and excellence still seem out of my reach, but I’m confident that together we can move toward being competent citizens in our increasingly multicultural world!

Karen LoBracco

Program Consultant for Lifespan Faith Development
Ohio Meadville and St. Lawrence Districts, UUA

 

Reference: Research by Lynch & Hanson (1992) in Planting the Seeds of Cultural Competence: An Educational Program for Unitarian Universalist Parents by Laura M. Stanton suggests three stages in the development of cultural competence:

  1. Practice cultural self-awareness
  2. Gain knowledge and information about other cultures
  3. Learn skills that enable successful interaction and communication.
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Team Work

Sunday, May 15th, 2011

by Rev. Joan Van Becelaere
Ohio-Meadville District Executive

A couple of weeks ago, I had the honor of presenting the “Charge to the Congregation” during the installation of a colleague as the new minister of a congregation in the district.

Installations are big-time “whoop-de-do’s” – with all of the pomp and circumstance (and some say pompous circumstances) we Unitarian Universalists can muster. There was a procession of clergy in robes and colorful stoles. A choir in finest form. And messages from a variety of visiting clergy.

No, it doesn’t measure up to the ritual of a high Catholic mass or an Episcopalian ordination. But for us rather informal Unitarian Universalists, it’s pretty darned special.

For generations, since the time of our Puritan Congregationalist ancestors, we’ve included a “Charge to the Congregation” in our installation services. In early New England, it was a time to explain to the congregation’s members what their duties and responsibilities and expectations of support were in regard to the newly installed clergy person. Today, it’s usually a time to say to both congregation and clergy – be good to each other, support one another and your mutual ministry will succeed.

I believe that clergy and congregation are, indeed, called to be good to one another, honor and respect one another, listen to and learn from one another, and remember that ministry is always – always – a shared enterprise and a community activity.

But this good advice is no longer enough for our increasingly complex world. It is no longer enough to simply encourage congregations to support the clergy they call to minister to and with them. The social and political and economic environments we face today won’t let us continue to just amble along in our familiar patterns and old styles. We have to face a new world with a new response and a new attitude–and go beyond the old advice that worked in the past.

I believe that the only way for a congregation and clergy to build a thriving ministry in today’s environment is by building a unified, focused Team – a Team that includes other Unitarian Universalist congregations, and is based on living the fact that we are part of the interconnected web of existence and that we are all… truly… in this together.

The organizational development expert, Margaret Wheatley, tells us that many in our larger society are articulating the belief that we are all inthis together. She wrote in the article “Are We All In This Together?”: “One of the most commonly heard phrases today is, “We’re all in this together.” From high-level leaders to local school board members to teen-agers offering service, this is the mantra of our time.…. No matter what’s going on around us, if we truly believe that we’re in this together, and we work hard to be there for one another, we can make it through.”

Ethicist Larry Rasmussen recently wrote: “Nothing is itself without everything else.” Philosopher Danah Zohar said: “Everything is created out of relatedness, sustained through relationships, and thrives in interdependence.”

We Unitarian Universalists pride ourselves on being people of covenants, not creeds. Walter Brueggemann, famous Hebrew Bible scholar, wrote that: “the concept of covenant implies a shared life. The ongoing process of life is coming to terms with people who are “other” than us and to practice mutuality with them. This is the essence of “covenanting.”

In that installation, I charged the congregation to make our seventh principle – honoring the interdependent web of existence – their top priority and live as if the interdependent web really mattered. I charged them to covenant together and form a genuine, effective Team.

It’s not easy to create a congregational Team. It’s more than a common mascot or logo or even matching t-shirts. It takes commitment. It takes work. And it takes change.

To create an effective Team, we must give up our historic love affair with individualism and, instead, embrace the priority of community. But is this possible for us?

Even though we know we are at once precious and distinct, we are also part of the oneness of all being. Even though we live out our faith as individual members and congregations, we need to open up to the greater good and work for what will benefit the larger whole. But can we do that?

We need to do away with the old self-protective attitudes that saw other Unitarian Universalist congregations as competition. Instead, we are called to welcome neighboring Unitarian Universalist congregations as friends and partners on a common journey with a common mission.

But all of this means that we have to answer the hardest question of all — can we give up our fear of change and distrust of new things, and exchange them for a living and thriving hope for the future?

I hope we can. I want to believe we can. If we are committed to our highest values, I know we can.

We are all in this together. We saw this last summer when Unitarian Universalists from all over the nation gathered in Phoenix AZ to Stand on the Side of Love for immigration reform. All Unitarian Universalist congregations were impacted by this public witness and I believe we will never be the same again. The interdependent web truly does matter.

I’ve noted before that each congregation has a key role to play in the interdependent, covenanted system that is the Ohio-Meadville District, the Central Regional Group of neighboring districts, and the Unitarian Universalist Association. It bears repeating.

In company with Theodore Parker and Martin Luther King Jr, we believe that the arc of the universe is bending toward justice – but we know that the arc doesn’t bend on its own. It requires all of us, working together, as a real Team, to make it bend.

For a long time, our Unitarian Universalist congregations have lived as if we were alone and separate form one another. But now we live in a new age , a new time. And this new age demands that we live in a new way, as a new Team with each other and with all other Unitarian Universalist congregations.

As a united Team, we stand on the side of Love — a Love that calls us to live and work with one another, and assures us over and over that we are all in this together.

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Belong-Behave-Believe: Love, Universalism and Church Membership

Saturday, March 19th, 2011

by Rev. Joan Van Becelaere
District Executive
Ohio-Meadville District of the UUA

I’m spending March 17-20 in a hotel in Minneapolis attending the UUA’s Large Church Conference. This event, held once every 3 years, brings together clergy and leaders from the largest Unitarian Universalist congregations in North America.

This year, the central speaker is Dan Hotchkiss, Alban Institute consultant and UU minister. Dan has had a lot of great things to say about why congregations are concerned with governance issues and how our ways of governance can support a new emphasis on mission in the churches. No doubt, a lot of this great material will be on the UUA website before too long.

I was particularly struck by one thing Dan said this morning. He explained that in decades past, we Unitarian Universalists were very concerned to make sure that visitors and potential new members knew what we believed. Articulating what we believed (and what we did not believe) was our main form of outreach to potential new members.

But today, people coming into our UU churches are not unknowledgeable or confused about what Unitarian Universalists believe. They have looked us up online. They know about our Principles and Purposes and even our covenants. They know about our lack of dogma and creeds.

People visiting our churches today don’t ask” “What do you UU’s believe?” Instead, visitors come and ask, “What kind of life are you inviting me to share?” What is the committed and demanding life of service that we are inviting folk to participate in with us?  These folk who visit our churches are also asking:  “Could these be my people?  Do I belong here?”

That’s a whole new ballgame for most of us and calls us to seriously review how we approach the work of “hospitality” and welcoming and membership.

Just like most mainline Protestants, Unitarian Universlists have long held to a particular paradigm or world view when it comes to the process of how folk join our congregations and become active, productive members.

• First step is to learn the guiding teachings of the church and give assent to them. We come to believe in the power of the Principles or the covenant or liberal religion.

• Then one learns to behave in accord with the beliefs. We learn what behavior is expected of church members (how we do things around here) and act accordingly.
• Finally, one can formally join and belong. We sign the book and are asked to pledge (maybe) and join some committee no one else wants to be on. 

It’s a very logical process of Believe – Behave – Belong.

But people today are asking a different question. They are asking the “Belong” and even the “Behave” question before they want to talk about Beliefs. The stages of church membership are shifted to Belong – Behave – Believe.

There’s an emerging church community near Cape Town in South Africa that describes (on their website) a wonderfully concise way of differentiating between the old paradigm and the new process of “Belong – Behave – Believe.” They describe the two world views using the following words (with a few of my own interpretations in parenthesis) :

Old Process: Believe –Behave –Belong
• PRESCRIBE- theology tells us what we ought to think and do; (including liberal or humanist theology )
• CONFORM -accept the prescriptions; (following what we consider to be proper church behavior and ways of relating to one another )
• EXCLUDE- via membership

New Process: Belong – Behave – Believe
• INCLUDE – unconditional love is lived and experienced (everyone is included, everyone is invited to participate in building the Beloved Community without theological or behavioral barriers.);
• TRANSFORM – by being accepted in the orbit of grace (and universal love that hopes all things, endures all things and spends itself in service to others):
• REFLECT – theology reports what has actually happened (a restatement of the action/reflection model of doing theology. We participate in acts of love and then reflect on their implication.)

In this “Belonging First” way of thinking, our Sunday morning church greeters are there to model love and invite people to belong to a vibrant community regardless of where they are in their spiritual journey. People are invited to participate before they have taken UU history or know about William Ellery Channing. Sunday morning greeting may easily be one of, if not THE most important task in the congregation!

(So – how does your church seek out and train greeters??)

Love comes first and foremost. We are called to love one another before we even know one another. That’s the first and most important step on the process of church membership and active participating in the Beloved Community.

Speaking of Love —

On the plane flight to this large church conference, I started reading Rob Bell’s new book “Love Wins.” I’m not very far into it yet, but already I can testify that this a book that should not be missed. (More about this book later after I finish it.)

Its publication has sparked heated (even flaming) discussion in conservative Christian circles and beyond. Bell questions the popular orthodox views on heaven and hell and he dispels centuries of bad scriptural translation and very questionable exegesis about the “afterlife.” Bell argues that a loving God would not condemn God’s beloved creatures to an eternity of damnation. Bell’s book could be called a revival of universalist theology in the tradition of John Murray, Hosea Ballou and others in the Universalist tradition in the U.S.

The Universalist tradition speaks in terms of the centrality and ultimacy of compassionate Love (Divine and human) for all people. Love wins!

Rev Peter Morales, president of the Unitarian Universalist Association, noted on the Huffington Post recently that the U.S. Universalist tradition also includes a strong tie between one’s spirituality and one’s commitment to social justice – in this lifetime -bringing the realm of God into reality here and now. In the face of hatred and oppression, we are called to serve and Stand on the Side of Love. (www.standingonthesideoflove.org)

Love invites us to belong. (Belong)
Love enables us to live in service to the world. (Behave)
Love becomes the core of the beliefs that shape our lives. (Believe)
In the final counting, Love wins! (Beyond!)

On the South African site, there are the lyrics of a new hymn that holds up the primacy of Love and belonging in building our spiritual communities. These lyrics read:

Light and Dust

Here I am, this is me.
Let my heart and yours unite.
You are all, and I am yours
Light and dust, dust and light.

Here we are, this is us
Incomplete but held by trust
You are all, and we are yours
Dust and light, light and dust

Not too big, nor too small
Finding our place in the All

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The Parable of Jenny – A Faith For All Ages

Monday, February 21st, 2011

By Rev. Joan Van Becelaere
District Executive

Jenny had just moved to town to start her freshman year at the state university there. After the first few weeks of orientation and getting used to her new classes, she felt pretty comfortable on campus and started to look around at what was going on in town. She particularly wanted to check out the nearby Unitarian Universalist church. She’d been raised UU all her life, had been an active member of her youth group, sang in the choir, and was even elected to the church board as the youth representative. And it just didn’t feel right to not be in church on Sunday morning.

So, one find Sunday morning, she set off to visit the First UU Church.

When she got there, she saw that everyone was bustling around doing the usual Sunday morning things – setting up microphones, handing out orders of service, setting up coffee pots, greeting friends, and so forth. It all seemed familiar and that was good.

Jenny noticed a Greeters Table near the entry. The two greeters were busy chatting with one another as Jenny walked up. They didn’t see her and kept talking. Jenny thought it would be rude to interrupt so she just stood there awhile. Finally one of them noticed her and offered a name tag and then went back to talking with the other greeter.

The service was pretty typical, but it reminded her of home, which was nice. She shook hands with the minister on her way out but the minister didn’t really look at her. She took the obligatory “red cup” in the coffee hour and stood around a while. One of the coffee servers smiled at her but no one spoke to her or asked who she was.

Jenny thought the whole thing was rather uncomfortable but she decided to try again the following week. Maybe she had been too shy. She hadn’t seen any other young adults, there but maybe she had just not noticed. She went again and this time tried to tell the greeters and the minister her name and that she was a student. And she deliberately stood by the pamphlet rack during coffee hour. Maybe someone would stop by to talk to her. But no. Nothing changed.

Believe it or not, Jenny went a third time. She was a pretty stubborn person and was actually getting upset that no one seemed to care she was there. But there was no difference. So she gave up.

A few weekends later, her parents came to visit. They wanted to visit the church and Jenny went with them, though a bit reluctantly. But things were dramatically different this time. The greeters immediately noticed and welcomed them, asking them to fill out a visitor card, pointing out some of the features of the building, and inviting them to coffee after the service. People in the service noticed the visitors and introduced themselves. The minister asked why they were visiting. And people in coffee hour came up to chat and invite them to some upcoming church events.

What had changed? Jenny was still the same person she’d been the first three visits. The only difference was her parents – obviously in their 50’s and obviously dressed like typical professionals. So – why were her parents noticed and welcomed while Jenny seemed invisible?

This little story is true even though it doesn’t relate the personal experience of any single person. Rather, it brings together a number of individual stories and collective experiences of young adults and college students who come to our congregations.

I attended a District Young Adult Consultation last Saturday with about a half dozen young adults and another half dozen campus chaplains, clergy, religious educators and campus group sponsors. We were there to explore some of the challenges and rewards of campus and young adult ministry. We were there to ask how we can help make this population really and truly visible in our congregations.

During the day of discussion, we asked ourselves some very important questions -
 - Why is it important for our congregations to reach out with campus ministries?
- Why is it important to create intentional young adult programs in the our congregations?
- What’s in it for the congregations?

Campus ministry is not about growth or filling pews. Most students are only in school a few short years before moving away to take jobs and start families. It’s not about increasing the budget. Most students have little extra money and they really don’t pledge all that much.

“We can’t measure the success of our effort in ministry to young adults in terms of the number of young adults we see in our congregations. If our ministry is to be a genuine expression of our spirit and our faith, what we should hope for it is that it makes us better Unitarian Universalists, better examples of lived and embodied faith, as individuals and as congregations.” Evan Young, Ohio-Meadville District Young Adult and Campus Ministry Consultant.

Young adult and campus outreach is all about ministry. It’s about service. It’s about outreach to a population that is underserved in our congregations and needs our care. Because it is the right thing to do.

Young adults, both in and out of school, are immersed in a time of life that is filled with changes and major life transitions of all kinds. They often need something or someone to count on during these turbulent years. Our congregations, our UU faith should be there for them.

“I think that young adult and campus ministry is vital to a healthy Unitarian Universalism. People within the 18-35 year range are going through so many transitions in their lives. It would be so wonderful to provide young adults with a community where they could feel welcome, supported and in touch with the spiritual as they navigate these difficult transitions.” Jeremy Holmes, chair of the Ohio-Meadville UU Young Adult Network.

In addition, congregations with intentional young adult ministries seem healthier and are, overall, more multi-generational in their outlook. Young adult ministry is essential to becoming a religion for all ages.

Next year will be a time of discernment for the Ohio-Meadville District in regard to Young Adult Ministry.   It will be a time to seriously assess how district and regional staff and volunteer committees can better assist congregations and clusters to strengthen programs for young adults and engage in new and renewed campus ministries.

“I want to see Young adults involved with Campus Ministry take an active role in UUism, not just talking about it amongst themselves, but going out in the community and proudly say “we are Unitarian Universalists.” I don’t aim to convert people to UUism, but I do wish to spread the idea that “the truth manifests itself in different ways and who are we to say one manifestation is better than another?” Will Strickler, young adult member of the OMD Young Adult Ministry Committee.

I believe we owe it to Jenny and to her friends Jim, Jackie, Jody, Jerry and others to step up and reach out and become a faith for all ages while we stribe to be a faith for our time.

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Rowing It Alone: Creativity in Times of Scarcity

Friday, January 21st, 2011

By Rev. Joan Van Becelaere, District Executive, Ohio-Meadville District of the UUA

“…war, famine, abuse, societal collapse, ecological devastation—human beings can get through anything as long as we’re together.” Margaret Wheatley

I was reading an article from the Alban Institute the other day that laid out the challenges congregational leaders face when serving struggling amd poor congregations. The author, the Rev. Mark Miller-McLemore (“Leadership in Scarcity”), did a good job of facing some cold, hard realities rather than simply presenting a simplistic gospel of abundance. It was pretty sobering and brought home to me the fact that, even though we often have many more resources than we might think we have, there are times and places where there are genuine shortages of money and people and energy.

Fortunately, some of our congregations are experiencing a renewal in their collective economic reality. Employment in the immediate community is stable again. The church budget and members’ financial support are beginning to grow again or are at least doing OK. Congregants have stopped moving out of state to look for jobs. Whatever investments the church might have are paying off again.

But others of us haven’t seen any improvement and are wondering if the new “normal” is one of continued scrounging. How long must we continue to say “no” to good new ideas in order to support the essential things? Will underpaid staff stay or will they move to greener pastures as the economy improves elsewhere? When we meet in district or regional gatherings with other congregational leaders and they start to talk about new projects and growth, are we embarrassed to say that we are thrilled to be just surviving?

The author of the article talked about the fact that living with scarcity means we don’t have the luxury of living in denial about difficult truths. We have to “speak the truth in love.” He says that in times of scarcity we are called upon to use our gifts more fully and walk the walk rather than simply talk the talk. We have to live with honesty and with love and develop strong bonds of trust throughout the congregation to see us through.

Living in struggle means that we need to celebrate any and all victories, no matter how small or ordinary. We need to keep our balance while developing an attitude of persistence and hope. And, perhaps most importantly, times of scarcity call on us to be creative, to experiment with new ways of doing things, new ways of thinking about even ordinary expectations and tasks. And to intentionally put aside our fear of failure.

It was a really good article. But it didn’t go far enough. It seemed to assume that congregational leaders and congregations are out there by themselves, all alone. That struggling congregations are lone leaky row boats adrift in a wide sea of troubles and we have no choice but to row for our lives.

Maybe part of the challenge to think more creatively, at least for us historically individualistic Unitarian Universlists, is to realize that we don’t have to struggle alone. We have other congregations in our covenantal association and we can and should call on them when needed. We have other leaders out there who have faced what we now face and we can benefit from their experience and wisdom. We don’t have to row it all alone. There are some tough tugboats out there willing to lend a line or two in the storm as well as some fellow row boats that would link together with us to better keep afloat and moving forward. We just have to put up a flag or two.

I have personally witnessed the benefits that come when our congregational leaders reach out to one another – even in small ways. Every month I hold a district “Presidents’ Roundtable” online. It’s an open forum where congregational leaders not only bring their questions but also bring their experience and creative new ideas. Some of the participants are from smaller congregations. Others are from larger ones. But we’ve found that size is no bar to sharing ideas and learning from one another. I’ve been impressed by the openness and generosity from all sides.

Our district also has a Chalice Lighter program where individuals from all congregations are called upon to share a few dollars each quarter with a congregation trying to grow and reach out in new ways but without enough internal resources at this particular point in time to do what it feels called to do. It’s really beautiful to see how some people respond each quarter and really support our covenantal commitment to each other.

Margaret Wheatley, one of my favorite organizational experts, recently wrote: “These are the first signs of a major turning in the United States—turning toward one another to discover what we might create together, how we might help each other, how we might console and strengthen one another. I, with many goodhearted colleagues, have been working deeply in Third World communities for many years. These communities in many different cultures have taught us that, in spite of the worst external circumstances—war, famine, abuse, societal collapse, ecological devastation—human beings can get through anything as long as we’re together. America needs to learn this undeniable truth of human experience. No matter what’s going on around us, if we truly believe that we’re in this together, and we work hard to be there for one another, we can make it through. “

I can’t help but think that if all of our boats – luxury liners, row boats and tugs – joined in a common flotilla, that we could not only help keep each other afloat, but we could all move together in a swift and positive voyage toward our common goal.

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Hey You! Suggestions for Increasing Visibility

Friday, September 10th, 2010

How many of you at some point in your life had a conversation like this?

“Which church do you go to?”
“XYZ Unitarian Universalist”
“Where’s that?”
“On 123 Street”
“Hm, I never knew that there was a UU Church in our area.”

Often one of our best kept secrets is the fact that our churches and congregations actually exist. I can testify to this – I lived in Chapel Hill, NC for 4 years and never realized that I was literally blocks from the closest UU church because they did not use UU or Unitarian or Universalist in their name or yellow pages directory listing (this was in the early 90s). So we never found them. Does that sound familiar for some in your congregation?

The beginning of the church year is a time when folks are looking for a spiritual home. They are searching the web, running google searches, asking their friends, paying attention to names they see around town. What is your church doing to let them know you are there? Here are some suggestions:

1) Have a visible sign folks can see when they drive or walk past. I have attended more than one church who either did not have a sign, or the sign was on the church but was blocked by the trees between the building and the street, or the sign was on the other street they fronted, or the sign was past the only entrance to the parking lot… you get the idea. Take a look at your signage – can you read it? Does it need a fresh coat of paint? Has the growth of your plants around the church made it hard to read? A sign is important – especially if your building does not look like a typical church. I may have directions, but I want to be sure that I’m in the right place and not at someone’s house. If your building is off the beaten track do you have a sign on the main road directing folks to your location? Think about how folks know they are in the right place.

2) Have a website that is visitor friendly and up to date. One of the biggest turn-offs for someone who is searching for a congregation is to discover that while they have a website, all the calendar information is from 3 months ago or worse yet, 2 years ago. A static site that only provides the basics is better than a dynamic site that you don’t keep up to date. Need tips for good website design? Check out the “Creating a Congregation Website” page at the UUA website. This page has resources that walk you through the process of finding a host, templates and other sources for designs, help documents, and a basic checklist of items to have and not have on your site. The UUA has an email list for websters that you can join to get help from UU webmasters around the country. Need help with inexpensive hosting? The district can help you with this, just email me at office@ohiomeadville.org. Most people who now come to UU churches have checked them out online before attending.

3) Social Media. This is the term that encompasses facebook, twitter, youtube, blogs and more. It is the world of social networking. Does your congregation have a facebook page? Or some other social media? To many social media is scary and it is something only youth and young adults do. Did you know that the fastest growing demographic on facebook is women over 55? The UUA has lots of resources on Social Media at their website including the powerpoint from two workshops offered at GA this year. Got questions? Contact me at office@ohiomeadville.org and sign up for our Social Media webinars we will be offering later this year.

4) Increase your visibility in the community. Do you have a display table at local festivals and fairs? The county fair? Are you a presence at events in your community? The more your congregation is visible, the more folks will be aware that you exist. Simple flyers on a table with someone friendly to talk to can work wonders. In areas where a number of churches are present such as Pittsburgh or Cleveland, the cluster can work together for these kinds of things. Look around your community and see what events you can sponsor, participate in, or be a presence.

5) Ask people to come to church. I know of a church in another district who is having a neighborhood canvass after church this Sunday. They will go door to door in the neighborhood inviting people to come to their church the following Sunday, which is their Ingathering service. Most people come to church because someone asked them. Has your church considered a “Bring A Friend Sunday” or some other type of outreach? Mailing postcards or letters to houses in the neighborhood isn’t the same – this requires the personal touch.

This year’s District Assembly is focused on the theme of “Radical Hospitality.” Getting folks in the door is just the first step. Come to DA to learn how to make them welcome and keep them.

Have a success story for your church? Let us know! We love to hear what works in our congregations so we can share it with others.

Make your church visible!

Beth C

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You Can’t be Creative If You Refuse to be Confused

Friday, September 3rd, 2010

by Rev. Joan Van Becelaere
Ohio-Meadville District Executive

Last week, I did something that I had been longing to do for some time. I saved my pennies (well…dimes and dollars) and spent a week at the Cape Cod Institute attending a class offered by Margaret Wheatley and Angela Blanchard, called “Leaders For The Storm: Wisdom Old and New for Leading in Crisis and Chaos.”

The presenters started off with a basic assertion that we live I n an age of anxiety, uncertainty, disillusionment and exhaustion. As well as an age of exploration, generosity and clarity. Kind of like the start to Dicken’s “Tale of Two Cities” – “ It was the worst of times. It was the best of times….”

But I have to admit – they struck a chord. It IS anxious and chaotic and exploratory and generous out there. There is a lot of change going on …constantly. And all of this stuff will and is impacting each and every one of us.

And then they said something that directly reflected the concerns I hear from congregational leaders every day — leadership has never been as difficult and perplexing as it is today.

The systems that created our modern state of crises, they said, cannot resolve the problems. New systems must be created to find our way to real workable solutions. Leaders are called upon to play two roles–hospice workers to the failed systems (to keep what is necessary still running) while trying to act as midwives to the birth of new ones (that will bring real solutions.).

Change is inevitable and the pace is picking up. Of course, this situation results in social and psychological chaos. This isn’t to be feared since ”you can’t be creative if you refuse to be confused.” You can’t find new solutions if you refuse to jump in and face the situation in all of its messiness and admit that you don’t know all of the answers. But it does call for changing some of our key beliefs about how the world works and our assumptions about how to lead and organize.

Our world currently operates with some basic assumptions that serve to hinder us in our attempts to deal with the world today.

1. Leaders have to maintain control and produce stability in the face of uncertainty. We don’t need creativity or experimentation. There is no room for the confusion or failure that comes with experiments.

2. That’s the way things are and we can’t change them. Disillusionment is the way of the world.

3. Only a select, few, gifted folk can be leaders. There aren’t enough leaders to go around.

4. We live in the midst of scarcity. There are not enough time, talent, ideas or resources to deal with our problems.

5. Other humans are inadequate and not be trusted. We have to find ways to control them from messing things up even more.

Counter to this rather dismal set of assumptions, we are called upon to foster new beliefs that will help us address our new world of creative chaos. Let me try to summarize these briefly albeit inadequately.

1. Chaos is the necessary route to creativity and newness. Experimentation is a blessing and failure is how we learn to succeed the next time. We have to let go of our futile and destructive search for certainty if we want to see new possibilities. We have to stop thinking that we know all of the answers if we are going to discover the new approaches that will be truly effective.

2. Every situation is workable. Maybe not immediately. Maybe not in the ways first expected. Life will always give you feedback that you can learn from. Whatever you do, you get a response. The worlds is always sending you messages. But we ignore this reality. We focus on the action to much we forget that feedback comes to us. We need to listen then ask …did the action work? Is the response what you expected? What do we learn from the feedback?

3. Leaders are made (or can be taught) not born. Most leaders want to believe the leadership is a special quality only available to them — and a few of their friends. But there is a better definition of leadership — a leader is anyone who is willing to help, anyone who sees something that needs to be changed and steps forward to take on the challenge. Most of us can be leaders on behalf of something we care about. The true role of a leader today is to set the stage so other leaders can emerge.

4. We have what we need. This is where paying attention to the diversity around us helps us see more options. After all, no one person can see the world in all of its fullness. There are untapped, unrealized resources in people and cultures and traditions right in front of us. Leaders help others discover their own potential and creativity and skills and calling to lead. One very powerful example – we label folk as ‘poor’ and assume they are entirely helpless, not recognizing or trying to draw on the skills and creativity and knowledge they have that can be used to address their situation.

5. The human spirit can not be extinguished. We have to learn to trust one another and create new connections across all of our former boundaries. We have learn to act from our own sense of generosity, not fear. Generosity is a matter of the human heart operating in the world without fear.

I m just now beginning to unpack what these assumptions might mean for my ministry and work with congregations and the Ohio-Meadville district. It will be an exciting year.

Margaret Wheatley has a new book out that was written for these times: “Perseverance.” I really recommend it.

And I WILL get a t-shirt that says: “You can’t be creative if you refuse to be confused.”

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